“From page one, I couldn't put this book down. Tami McCandlish's account of female bullying hits at the core of society's dark secrets. I never realized how much I had internalized and suffocated my own insecurities and experiences in junior high until this book. Flying Grounded forced me to face my own experiences and to re-evaluate how I treat others, both women and men. Thank you for allowing me to share in your story and, in the process learn from my own.”
—Ashley Flintoff, Detroit, MI


“This book is an excellent combination of documented research and raw personal experiences. The author vividly shares her life experiences and vulnerability in order to help others. As the parent of a teenage son, I found that this book offered me many opportunities to talk to my son about how to recognize and avoid being caught-up in the destructive dynamics of girl bullying. I think all of us know that this type of hurtful behavior doesn't end with high school. This book is a great read regardless of gender or age.”
—Deborah Carr, Pataskala, OH

I couldn't put this book down. It's an excellent read for young teens and women. It's obvious that the author has put her heart and soul into this and clearly wants to help others by showing them that you can make it through the tough times if you put your trust in Jesus Christ, as she did. She has taken a bad time in her life and turned it around to use it to help others who may be experiencing relational aggression or bullying. I applaud her for bravely telling her story and putting it all out there! We can all learn from it.

—Reader, Amazon.com

I just started reading this book last night, and I can't put it down. The story is brutal and honest, and an inspiration for women and girls who are trying to heal from horrible high school events. I do recommend this book.
—Reader, Amazon.com


The author has put her heart and soul into this book, allowing you, the reader, to relive her tumultuous youthful years. She does a wonderful job of conveying to you how much hurt and angst a person can go through when being bullied. As a female who has been through this same situation, I can wholeheartedly relate to the author’s story. She shows that it is possible through the love and support of family and friends and with
God's help, to become a better and stronger person.
—Reader, Amazon.com

Other Suggested Materials

For Girls

1. An American Girl: Chrissa Stands Strong (DVD)
2. Girls Against Girls: Why We Are Mean to Each Other and How We Can Change (Bonnie Burton)
3. Mean Chicks, Cliques, and Dirty Tricks (Erika V. Shearin Karres)
4. Odd Girl Out (DVD, PG-13)
5. Odd Girl Out: The Hidden Culture of Aggression in Girls (Rachel Simmons)
6. Odd Girl Speaks Out: Girls Write about Bullies, Cliques, Popularity, and Jealousy (Rachel Simmons)
7. Please Stop Laughing at Me (Jodee Blanco)
8. Stand Up for Yourself & Your Friends: Dealing with Bullies and Bossiness, and Finding a Better Way (Patti Kelley Criswell)


For Schools & Parents

1. An American Girl: Chrissa Stands Strong (DVD)
2. Between Women: Love, Envy, and Competition in Women's Friendships (Luise Eichenbaum and Susie Orbach)
3. Bullying in the Girls’ World: A School-Wide Approach to Girl Bullying (Diane Senn)
4. Girl Wars: 12 Strategies That Will End Female Bullying (Cheryl Dellasega and Charisee Nixon)
5. Girlfighting: Betrayal, Teasing, and Rejection Among Girls (Lyn Mikel Brown)
6. I Can't Believe She Did That! Why Women Betray Other Women at Work (Nan Mooney)
7. I Know Just What You Mean: The Power of Friendship in Women's Lives (Ellen Goodman and Patricia O'Brien)
8. In a Different Voice (Carol Gilligan)
9. In the Company of Women: Indirect Aggression Among Women: Why We Hurt Each Other and How to Stop (Pat Heim, Susan Murphy, and Susan K. Golant)
10. Lip Service: The Truth About Women's Darker Side in Love, Sex, and Friendship (Kate Fillon)
11. Livin’ Out Loud: Today’s Girls and Technology (Allyson A Bowen)
12. Mean Chicks, Cliques, and Dirty Tricks (Erika V. Shearin Karres)
13. Mean Girls Grown Up: Adult Women Who Are Still Queen Bees, Middle Bees, and Afraid-to-Bees (Cheryl Dellasega)
14. Mean Girls: 101 ½ Creative Strategies for Working with Relational Aggression (Kaye Randall and Allyson Bowen)
15. Odd Girl Out (DVD, PG-13)
16. Odd Girl Out: The Hidden Culture of Aggression in Girls (Rachel Simmons)
17. Odd Girl Speaks Out: Girls Write about Bullies, Cliques, Popularity, and Jealousy (Rachel Simmons)
18. Please Stop Laughing at Me (Jodee Blanco)
19. Queen Bee Moms and Kingpin Dads: Dealing with the Teachers, Parents, Coaches, and Counselors Who Can Make--or Break--Your Child's Future (Wiseman)
20. Queen Bees and Wannabes: Helping Your Daughter Survive Cliques, Gossip, Boyfriends, and Other Realities of Adolescence (Rosalind Wiseman)
21. Relational Aggression in Girls (Jamie Kupkovits)
22. Reviving Ophelia: Saving the Selves of Adolescent Girls (Mary Pipher)
23. Salvaging Sisterhood (Julia Taylor)
24. The Secret Between Us: Competition Among Women (Laura Tracey)
25. Tripping the Prom Queen: The Truth About Women and Rivalry (Susan Shapiro Barash)
26. Understanding Girl Bullying and What to Do About It: Strategies to Help Heal the Divide (Field, Kolbert, Crothers, and Hughes)
27. Woman's Inhumanity to Woman (Phyllis Chesler)